Stop fucken pushing

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It sounds like you handled it quite well. I can't think of any situation off the top of my head where I was forced into something. In my past life I became very good at being the one who had to stay responsible and I became quite good at it.

As a retired alcoholic who has spent more time in bars since I quit drinking than when I was drinking, I've run into that type on more than few occasions. I have a three strikes routine I employ with them, the first time they try I politely explain I don't drink, the second time I tell a bit of my 'the last time I got drunk I escaped from the jail' story. The third time I ask if they want to fight. So far no one has been dumb enough to persist after that. Doubt that method would work quite as well in a work setting, but I see that sort of behavior as incredibly disrespectful and in need of addressing in some sort of fashion.

Alcohol at work-related events can be fun, or a big problem. 30 years ago, when it flowed more freely, a client of ours at an open-bar party almost fell out of a sixth-floor window of our office.

Unfortunately, that's somewhat common here. The drinking culture is slowly dying away, but it still persists. It kind of verges on hazing, where anyone new at a drinking party, even a business one, is forced to drink more than they are comfortable with. Luckily as a foreigner I am somewhat exempt from it, but even I get the pressure sometimes. It might be a bit of positive racism, but I get the "you are a foreigner, so you must be very strong against alcohol" thing that I think is probably relatively common, the implied suggestion here being that I should prove I meet the stereotype. Navigating this without offending the Japanese social customs can be tricky.

In my family there have been some problems with alcohol, we have had one tragic accident, but that's another story, you are very sensible and responsible and even more so with the work stuff.

I believe that far from creating an atmosphere of enjoyment, drinking in these workplaces causes problems. Even if it is an after-work dinner, it is still the place where colleagues are, and an event organised by the company. It is not the same as going out with colleagues to a bar.

I was at a work function last week and was one of the few who didn't drink. I certainly don't like drinking in a work related environment even if it is in a restaurant or other such occasion. It felt great driving home after! Luckily we didn't have anyone pushing others to drink, but a few people pushed themselves though. Do people need alcohol to have a good time in a social setting?

It is quite normal in functions, people drink and push others into it. But function at a work place providing plenty of free alcohol, strange, isn't it?

That's good that you know how to limit yourself unlike other drinkers

I generally frown at people who try to force certain acts like drinking and smoking upon people at a social event. I mean, everyone has a personal reason why they take few bottles or why they don't take at all. This coercive attitude just depicts a form of insensitivity to the matters of life and shows how unruly one can be.

We all have preferences and boundaries when it comes to drinking, and it's important for others to respect however some people don’t see it like that, they believe it’s part of them having fun. I am glad you handled it well

I don't drink at all hey. Never have. so have gotten this my whole life. The thing that gets me is that I'm not bothered if you are drinking so why are you so bothered that i am not drinking? Which is the question i usually ask, followed by are you insecure in your drinking? Usually gets them to shut up. I'm still pretty social and fun without the alcohol so don't see why it should bother others.

But throwing it into work scenario - ppl get stupid sloshed with free alcohol. Then literally fuck around. And it's hard to come back from that. Have lost respect for many a person in this way. And the guys talk. The most memorable episode was this chic who told everyone she has a demon living inside her, and spoke in a demon voice and was serious about the whole thing. Like i thought she was a loon prior that, but that just took the cake. Sometimes its hard not to judge. LOL

I remember something similar happened to me. I attended a party with friends and decided to bring a car. Eventually a lot of my friends started teasing, and is pushing me to drink, but I just didn't mind them. What I ended up doing though was eating a lot of the food while they drank a lot. A family member had an accident with a drunk driver, so I know the risks, and I try my best to keep safe.

I was reading you and remembering all those times when something similar happened to me, not with alcohol but with other things.

I don't drink alcohol, if I do it in a meeting and always with my family. I don't feel very well, I get sleepy quickly and I get dizzy, so I don't drink anything at all at any meeting, and I don't care what people say.

But I have felt pressured many times in the past, especially at parties. I don't like dancing, I don't dance and I won't dance, but I've even been dragged into it and I hate it. People don't respect different tastes and that makes me very upset.

I just try to stay away from the dancing area or be with people who are similar to me and if not go outside. Today it's different, I'm not in that area anymore and I have people close to me who are like me and that makes me happy, people who understand me and share with me and if I go out they won't force me.

Like you I think that this is what a work meeting is all about and there must be respect and a certain... right atmosphere.

People push us all the time: buy this weight loss program; buy this stock; buy this crypto token; play that p2e game :)

Sounds familiar?

In todays age of social media, lot of people are selling products and ideas. Perhaps not all of it is bad either.

Some are just pushing opinions; some good some not so good, eh?

Recently watched a movie on Netflix based on a real life event… give it a watch if you can
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dumb_Money

I love drinking alcohol. However, I learnt early enough never to cajole or encourage anyone to drink as much as I do, haven developed a high tolerance after years of practice (lol).

There have been several instances where I've been persuaded to try other vices like weed and cigarettes, and I've been curious enough to try them so I knew early on to draw the line. I've unfortunately had to cut ties with people who constantly persuaded me to keep trying with these narcotics.

I'm thick-headed and flexible enough to try things but also disciplined enough know when it's not worth continuing.

I believe we should have etiquette wherever we are. I used to be one of those people who drank like crazy and that always led to negative things, perhaps not so serious, but which ended up hurting me in some way. I think that, even more so since it's a company event, we should take it easy, enjoy things a bit and stay calm.

What happened just makes the guy who crossed the line the bore of the story, something that people will remember, and I think we know that the bad things that happened are always easier to remember than the right ones, in other words, the negative situations are easily remembered by people, now the good things we do end up fading away.

I think you did the right thing, enjoyed it to the right extent and that's it, invitation guaranteed for next time haha 😀😊

I have a hairdresser friend who musses up other womens' hairdos at parties. No one likes it - what woman hasn't fussed over her hair before a party? - but they tolerate it. You've reminded me of her. She drinks too much too, and is very likely high when she arrives. These drugs allow you to embrace one of your personalities. Once we let others know that personality is there, we are regarded differently when we are sober, yes.

Truth is that we are pushed always, in one way or the other, right from the cradle because people want us to do what pleases them. And somehow we oblige some.

Whenever I decide not to drink a lot at an event where there is a lot of alcohol, something similar to you happens to me.
At a friend's birthday, at a concert, at a company team building...
The only difference is that I am usually convinced by more than one person...
And they are mostly younger people.
The more persistently I refuse to drink one more glass, the more persistent the alcoholics around me are to force me to +1.
And me, I'm the happiest when the atmosphere is good, I can dance and sing all night, we're with a glass of water.
In moments when I don't want to get drunk, I make sure to pour a glass of drink and a glass of water next to it. So I make it so that the ratio of the water entered in relation to the toasted alcoholic drink is 90:10 😄 and so I don't drink (because I didn't want to), and alcoholics quickly approach the state when they won't see me anymore, not to convince me to drink more.
I remember my student days. 6 of us are sitting at a house party, a joint is rolled, 5 of them pass it to each other, they skip me, because I asked them enough times not to offer me, because I'm not a consumer (I'm not even a smoker...).

I'm a little late to the post, Galen but I applaud you because I do the same one or two drinks when they are social gatherings extension of the work environment. it has always been my personal policy...hahah people get uninhibited and the stripping begins.

I have a theory about why I think people do this. Deep down they want a partner in crime. The ones who do this really don't feel that drinking is OK (even though they may not admit that to themselves) and feel better if they get others to do it.

That said I have never understood the need to get others to join you in your activities, but I am by nature not a joiner and hate telling or convincing others to do something.

I like to drink, but when someone tries to convince me to, it becomes a personal challenge to do the opposite :-)

I can be contrary.

In my personal experience, drinking around workmates is fraught with traps and try to avoid it.

It is very annoying when a person drinks too much and somehow wants to push you to follow their example, especially if you don't like to drink alcoholic beverages or you like to stay alert and for that you have to stay away from alcohol. When that has happened to me, I simply try to stay away from this person and if he/she is close to me I try to take him/her away before he/she continues in worse ways or I call someone to come to rescue him/her and I leave if possible, greetings!

I don't get too serious too often, but I still believe work functions should still have some boundaries, I mean, you have to see these folks again the day after or a few days after most of the time.

I care what my management and coworkers think of me, so going wild at a business functions is totally out of the question for me. I might have longer, general conversations with folks I don't normally get to talk to as a regular person, but drinking to much is totally out of the question.

Sometimes I think folks who have a desire to take advantage of the free drinks and see getting really drunk as having a good party, know that it doesn't look as good if you they are the only ones doing it, so trying to get others to do the same is a must !

People may not ever mention it to your face at work if you show your @$$ at a company function, but they don't forget it and they will quietly judge what kind of person they think you are. It's human nature.

I'm not really a drinker either, rarely partake to be honest. I don't understand why people want to get in such a state to be honest.
I've had people tell me I'm boring cos I don't drink and others trying to get me to drink. It really annoys me. But at the end if the day, I stay me and get to wake up next day with no hangover.
I've had to distance myself from a friend because of her drinking behaviour. Because I simply don't want to be enabling her. She becomes such a different person, rude and pushy and of course never remembers it. I've had to help her home many times, worried what would happen if I didn't.
It's a shame really the relationship some people have with alcohol.
Hope all is well xxx

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