RE: CineTv Contest #132— A Love That Defies Time
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Henry is concerned about Claire, which is why he visits her frequently. But his life doesn't solely revolve around her, he has no control over this which is understandable. Claire receives the bare minimum from the whole story; her life is centered on Henry. From her conversation with the older Henry, her purpose is to help the younger Henry become a better person.
Regarding an adult's consistent visits to a six-year-old, I have reservations. It's especially concerning that the girl didn't mention it to her parents. Seeing a naked adult, whether in your backyard or elsewhere, isn't a common experience. Any child would likely tell their parents. Even though she didn't see him nude, she understood that he was naked, as he told her.
Greetings @malopie
I'm glad to know you've seen the movie and enjoyed it even more than I did:)
I appreciate your contribution.🤍
Perhaps we watched two different films 🤭 @phyna. Or maybe the cinematic adaptations of the original novel took a distinct thematic approach.
I agree with @malopie that this is a relationship rooted in love and mutual co-dependency between Henry and Claire—not a toxic dynamic of emotional independence/dependence.
In fact, in one of the scenes I reference in my post, Henry confesses to his mother that he’s found the “real girl” he’s fallen for.
Co-dependency here is reciprocal affection, far removed from the combative insistence on total independence (as if we don’t always depend on someone), “empowerment” (must someone always lose?), and competitiveness now touted as “virtues” in human relationships.
In my view, what @phyna calls “the inevitable”—Henry’s genetic condition—could be seen as a metaphor for people (men and women) in professions that demand sudden departures: pilots, first responders, military personnel, etc. Is it wrong for their partners to wait for their return? Does their love not endure during travels or missions?
😁😁You're totally right, my friend.
The thing is, this is my POV—I'm writing this review from my perspective, expressing how I felt about the movie.
I'm guessing you're not a woman, because if you were, you'd understand that Claire's only source of happiness seemed to be Henry. She mentioned she's been waiting for him her whole life, and when they finally got intimate, Henry revealed he has a girlfriend. When she got angry, the older Henry showed up to tell her not to be, that she is the one to make him a better man. You see?
Claire's character just didn't sit well with me.
We can't compare this to military couples; no woman just puts her life on hold, waiting for her husband's return. There needs to be something that gives her happiness, like loving parents, in-laws, friends, a business—a life of her own. Also, the man wouldn't be an *sshole and ask her to fix him!
I just wanted to see a small hint of Claire having a moment of happiness or peace afterward that didn't relate to Henry. But she had none:(
Your opinion is very much respected.
I think what I and @ernestopg are both leaning on here is just that both character's lives revolved around each other.
Henry having another girlfriend doesn't mean he was happy tho, clearly he was pretty much avoiding anything long-term.
Also, Claire did have a life outside Henry, and even Henry did ask her to not keep herself for him as younger Henry wasn't keeping himself, and she didn't, even though ultimately she yearned for Henry.
And if I may, I don't see anything wrong with a person's life being all about another person. We make our lives about so many things that aren't even worth wasting it away for all the time e.g depressing jobs, so I wouldn't mind the idea of making one's life about being with someone.
At best, happy moments is earned, at worst, well, same results with everything else in life.
You two have completely fried me. Are you siblings? 😩
Haha, first time interacting with both of you actually.